What is it to be a man? In our Jewish heritage we have the Yiddish term mensch which we use to describe a "good" man. But what the word really means is "one who struggles." In life, we all have our personal battles and it's our choice how we respond. We can act in FEAR: Forget Everything And Run or we can choose to respond in a more enlightened way: Face Everything And Rise. You have chosen the latter and that takes great courage. It takes a big person to do the right thing because doing the right thing often requires self-sacrifice, taking the harder road, doing unfamiliar and/or uncomfortable things, stretching out of your comfort zone, taking risks, confronting others, being accused of betrayal, being misunderstood, being negatively judged and so on.
Matis, you have struggled and you have prevailed and thus you really earn the title mensch in my book!
Specifically, I wish to publicly say KUDOS to you for the way you have handled being a father to all of your children. I found it so heart-warming the way you have accepted, embraced, and taken pride in your daughter regardless of the circumstances that she came to be here.
I also have a child out of wedlock and it has not been an easy path. There are many people who judge and criticize and disrespect people like us for our choices in handling the cards we were dealt in life. I can't imagine what that would be like under the microscope of being a public figure and having to go through it on a much larger scale. It's rather daunting to even think about it.
For someone who is generally relatively (and understandably) private about his personal life, you have not kept your daughter a secret from the world. You have candidly shared pictures of her on Twitter with your fans and didn't hide the truth of her existence. I find that so brave and endearing, especially considering how sensitive you were to the judgmental critics who chastised you when you shaved your beard off and evolved in your spiritual practice. In retrospect, maybe that past experience was to prepare you for being able to face and handle this one with greater ease?
For someone who is in the public eye to post pictures of his baby girl, without shame, is such a beautiful thing to me. That’s how a daddy is supposed to be! And not only that, because you have so many followers, you are setting a positive example for other young men who have children (who are married or not) to take responsibility for their child and to love their child and to be present for the child and to accept and embrace the situation and fatherhood and family and life no matter what shape or form it comes in! That is such a powerful message. That is truly respectable!
We plan, G-d laughs. Many of us are in situations that we didn't foresee and life didn't necessarily follow the fairy tales that we envisioned for ourselves and some people spend their whole lives fighting that, resisting that and not accepting what is so. Children are a blessing no matter what package it comes in.
I wish my daughter’s father behaved that maturely, compassionately, selflessly, and wisely! He hasn’t even posted a single picture of her (and she's 6 years old) and he doesn’t even have a high profile or anything—he just hasn’t come to terms with life not going as he wanted it to and he cares too much about what other people think of him.
So I want to thank you for being an example of what a man is and how a man should act. You were there for your daughter when she had her surgery and I know that you will always be there for her whenever she needs you and whenever she calls you. That is what a good person does. That is what a good parent does. That is who you have shown the world that you are. Bravo!
All the deadbeat dads who neglect and ignore their children should learn from you how a real man behaves.
Thank you for being you. Thank you for doing the inconvenient right thing, Thank you for having a heart. And thank you for sharing that heart with us. Blessings to you and your family.
PS When you were recently here in Miami, I attended your concert at Temple Beth David. I recorded some of your beat boxing on my phone. Our Chassidic masters teach that a niggun (melody without words) is on a higher and holier level than a song/prayer with words because the melody transcends the limitation of words. When I came home I listened to the videos and noticed that one of them lended itself nicely for a rap that I am working on producing called We Be ILLin (Illuminating Love & Light). So here is our duet. The recording is bad due to the equipment not being professional but I think our song has real potential and I would love to professionally record it with you!
A couple of my songs can be found on my Sound Cloud.
I have live performances on this playlist on my Youtube Channel.
And below is my Electronic Press Kit.
I would love to have the opportunity to work with you
and/or any of the producers that you have worked with to get on a label.
Thank you so much for your time & consideration.